Advice on living in Hong Kong

Ok, I moved here just under 6 months ago. Hong Kong is about the most frenetic, noisy and crowded place I have ever lived. I find this rather distressing and very uncomfortable. Equally it seems like a place where most people get lost in their jobs. How do people manage to maintain their personal business under such conditions? I know many solve this problem by live in domestics. This is not an option for me as I do not have a place to house a domestic. I also wonder about how people manage their personal relationships here? The intense business culture seems to be the antithesis to families and marriages. How do people find calm in a place that isn't very calm? I understand this is relative in comparison to some other places but I would very much appreciate advice on how to survive, find peace and make my relationship thrive here.