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How to motivate yourself & always Win in life? (Hong Kong)

What motivates you to be your best?
Who do you use as comparison to push your limits?

In years of competition from academics to business to athletics , the best competition is the same person every time: Myself !

Have you ever worked really hard only to look to someone else and be disappointed that your progress was not as advanced as hers? Was it frustrating? Did it motivate or demotivate you?

If you're anything like most of us, it discouraged you . You think, what's the point of working so hard if I still can't be as good as him or her?

Discover Your Own Path to Win in Life !

Comparison is futile as it does not make any sense to compare with others ( everybody has his own life journey ). You always have been and always will be your own best competitor.
In a world where comparisons happen non-stop, it is difficult to look outside yourself and to ever be content with who you are. There's always someone who's a bit better.
The only solution is to reach inside and measure against what Warren Buffett calls your own internal yardstick. There is no more accurate measure for comparison than who you were yesterday, last week or last decade, when you were at your best. Or perhaps the person you know you can be based on your values, passions/ purpose and mission.
Nothing useful ever comes from comparison to others. Either you see yourself as better than someone and you get lazy, or you see someone else as better than you and you feel like all your hard work is for nothing .
It is a fool's game. None of us are inherently above or below the person next to us. We are who we are. Not one of us is exactly alike. The only direct and honest comparison is within yourself !

And one thing is for sure. No matter how hard you work and how dedicated you are, there will always be someone who can run a little faster, jump a little higher or look a little nicer in a mini skirt . And if there's not, you can bet someone is coming up fast behind you.
So how can you ultimately always win in life?

Become your best competitor !

3 Reasons Why You are Your Own Best Competitor

1. Having an image of your most recent past limits is the perfect thing to push you to the next level. If you ran 5 kilometers yesterday, then do 6 today. Who cares if the guy next to you did 15? . You are a more fit person today than you were yesterday. Your own progress is all you need.

2. You will continuously be your personal best. If you commit to a slightly higher standard of yourself every day, you will always be at the top of your game. And that game will only get better. But if for some reason you fall off your mark, you will always have the past image of your peak performance to show you what you're capable of.
When Donald Trump went bankrupt, he was asked how hard it was to become wealthy again. He said the first time was the by far the most difficult. Once you've
done it, you know what's possible and then it's just a matter of doing it again. Show yourself what you're capable of.

3. Your coach will forever be with you. You'll never have to complain that your business partner is getting too lazy to keep up. After all, he is inside you, at your core.

So don't worry about the others. When it comes to progress, they don't matter anyway. What matters is that we all have our unique dreams, goals and desires. And then taking the actions and building the habits necessary to live those dreams. No one else wants exactly what you want. So why compare to them?

If you make yourself your one and only best competitor then you will have already won. Your progress will be nothing but fulfilling and it will stack up to achieve even more in the days to come.
Choose your own path and make comparison impossible.

The path of the crowd is one overflowing with the "who's better" mentality. If you choose a career that is hyper-competitive and over-saturated where everyone steps on each others' toes to get to the top, you are going to be forced to compare yourself to others as they will all be doing the same with you. Comparison will be all too easy.

The interesting thing about the road less traveled is that there is often no one else traveling your exact path. You will see people on similar or familiar looking roads but no one exactly like yours. This provides you with limitless inspirations as you see others' journeys but makes comparison nearly impossible.

If you make one choice: to take the road less traveled, you will have no choice but to measure using your internal yardstick. Nothing else will be accurate. You will be your own best competitor and victory will be yours for the taking.

If you're going to play the game, pick your path/passion ! wisely and set it up so you can win.

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