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Love and Inspiration In The Face of Loss

The Holiday Season is typically a time to reunite with families and friends. For expats, such reunions can be a challenge due to distance, lack of opportunity and time. But when loss or tragedy arises, it is often a rude awakening and a reminder of the importance of keeping up with loved ones.

In my last article, I wrote about friendships that withstand the test of time and distance. Since then I have experienced tragedy through the sudden and unexpected death of my good friend and business partner. I received the devastating news when my friend’s husband called me one morning in early November. When I saw the call coming in, I thought it was my friend and was mildly surprised when I heard her husband’s voice. While I didn’t know the nature of his call, I certainly wasn’t expecting the news he was about to share. I could sense his unease as he began to speak quickly, apologizing for not having reached out to me sooner. He expressed that there was no good way to share the news other than to tell me that two days ago my friend had tragically passed away in a car accident.

As I heard the news, everything went silent in my mind as I tried to digest his words and make sense of it all. It was only two days ago that my friend and I had exchanged several messages regarding our lives and our business efforts.  I had sent text messages up until the day of her accident when it appears that while she was driving on a busy road, someone had veered into her lane from the opposite direction and she died on impact. 

The news was the last thing I expected and it shook me to my core. To say that it was a tragedy would be an understatement. She was so young and vibrant, and had her whole life ahead of her. She had a wonderful husband she loved and three beautiful children she treasured. Due to the distance, I was not able to attend her memorial service, but I have been mourning her loss since then. I miss her – as a friend and as a trusted business partner.

My friend’s death raised my consciousness around the preciousness and precariousness of life more so than ever. We did not have the opportunity to spend more time together, but I am grateful that we talked frequently. I regret that we were not able to see our dreams for the success of our business come to fruition together, and as I reflect on the delicate balance of life, I wish to share my thoughts for enjoying life to the full and valuing time with your loved ones this holiday season as it, indeed, is a precious gift.

  • Reach out and connect, frequently
  • Trust and share openly
  • Inspire and be inspired by them
  • Show your gratitude
  • Cultivate an environment of mutual dependability, patience, loyalty, and forgiveness
  • Make time for each other and ensure that every moment together counts – time is a gift to be cherished and honored
  • Focus on the positive, accept all imperfections and avoid unrealistic expectations
  • Live life abundantly and generously
  • Be kind to yourself and others

In my memorial to my friend, I noted that “so long as the memory of certain beloved friends lives in my heart I shall say that life is good” (Helen Keller). My friend will always live in my heart in ways that will weather the test of time and spiritual distance. 


Jin Li Frick is a certified professional coach and Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner focused on Personal Effectiveness Coaching.  She is the co-owner of THRIVE Energy Coaching, and currently resides San Diego, CA, USA while her husband is living and working in Shanghai, China. Jin Li and their 4-year old son are planning for a big move to China early next year to reunite their family and start a new chapter in their lives! 

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