Crises of 30 'ies

3 Struggles A 30-Something Woman/Man Has When They are sure / Not Sure She’s Ready For A Baby
..if someone tells a young women ...

"For a man, the big Protected content a time of joy as he is wiser, more handsome, and if he’s lucky, he’s also richer.But for a woman, the big round number comes with other joys: sexual maturation, an amazing sense of style and fashion, and the delight of knowing what she wants. Except, when it comes to having a baby.
You know, at 30, a woman’s biological clock begins ticking really loudly. 30 is the age when women start to worry about the number of their eggs and start visualizing the grim possibility of never becoming a mother. But what if that strong, confident, wise 30-something woman is not sure that she even wants to have a baby? Therein lies the struggle."

If someone tells you this..You will offend your femine Libido...which is your heart and your divine..virtue..

For man accepting himself in his other partner also can be a real sturggle if it does happen..because partners are connected..

Here...there are several enviromental codes, contradicting with both male and female productivity system.What are they ?

1.Men believe, more strenght, being harder, the thoughest, more pushy, means being more mature and masquelen..and finally more sexually successfull..
This is not correct in the manner of physical expousure.More fitness, more stress, endless working hours, more responsibilites and engagments, more one night stands, more alchohol, overdoses testosteron and leads to more femine hormonal produce..and officialy tells your Libido , he is a looser.
This is also not correct in male cognitive or sexual beahaviour too.
Your libido experiences to incontinentious cognitive conflicts leading to a desonance and a great struggle.Keeping your options open, means you re in a circle of repetetive failure and you need an urgend hand up, for your Libido this will mean you are being a constant looser, in other words for your Libido you basically are not capable of keeping something, centering your slef and estabilishing over a therithory as a reward for it.Your Libido will want it's reward.And more mature you become ,more you delay it with time.This is also a great mistake...and having self pity is a great self punishment..

So pushing yourself for more success,fame, authorization, image, status,
or someother illusions..just to look more attractive..or...successfull.
Basically can be challanging only for your own image of self esteem and own orgasm and can make you feel motivated and hot..but your Libido should not be confusing this..with a continious rush or endless enhousiasm you dont know how/where to stop.We call this "sucicidal orgasm". When there is only this hot ,rushing challange for survival and no love...Because for Women
those illusions doesnt exist ,you re naked in front of your women...and she know the real you, and love the real you despites you...So stop chasing the white rabbit, and leave your self commitment to your mate.
She will be proud of you, no matter what you do , because our biology is set this way.Hormonal attraction and bound is our real nature.Love is our Religion.AND LOVE İS FOR FREE.Your woman will know you by your spirit and by heart.
Being valued, having a self value, having the feeling of being a part of a team of a family ,the feeling of being love ,accepted, and included, being proud of and values...starts with self commitment in sharing.
remember sharing is the more evoluted model of being selfish.
You re not Gods, you are not Soldiers, you re note Fast Food, You re not Cheap Material..Cleanease all those from your history .You can become man, with your woman.She may pet your wild nature, erase your past and give you the world you have always wanted, you will feel included and she will make you her all world , she will give you her world you may nurture with love, she will give you, your stop codons, and a therithory you may dominate over, and responsibilities you may feel secure and beneficial with.
In return you will produce more love and security.
Remember marriage is a plus plus model of a win -win situation, it is not a grave.She will give you your place in the Hierarchy , becoming a husband will give you an upper status in the society.

DO not be afraid of losing your self if you.
Commit your self,devote your self only in one goal at a time, and this should be your own system.And you will discover the win-win situational as a balance in a reciprocial self commitment, living one or two souls in several bodies:) Find the grey area in your monogamous marriage.This is called Family !Your own system, that will still work for you when you re 85!

Where am I going to stop ?Where is my stop codon, is the right question ?

The solution comes with convincing your self, you can have the old you, the relationship with you, and still can have one some other person and be in a relationship.By promising not to distroy your self